Hookup apps are pretty common to see on almost any single person’s phone. Even couples will use naughty sites to entice a third to enter the bedroom or relationship. When they first came out, they were taboo. It’s become a relief that people are more comfortable admitting that they use apps for hookups without shame. It has to do, in part, with the fact that hookup culture has become the norm. In fact, it seems to have outranked real-deal relationships. Some people see this as a miss, but in a lot of ways, it demonstrates society’s acceptance towards freer sexuality (which we’d argue is a hit!). Despite the fact that we’re comfortable tapping our way to new fuckbuddies, some of us haven’t gotten the hang of how to use hookup sites to actually get some action. That’s what this article is all about.

You need to know how to properly play the game on hookup sites. If you come across as too thirsty or too eager, it’s going to creep out your potential suitors. The following tips are going to show you how to be casual, cool, and make the apps work for you rather than struggling to get a match. And don’t worry, this isn’t going to cost you much. There are tons of hookup sites that you can access for free! That makes it easy to bounce around from site to site if you haven’t found the one that works well for you. It should be noted that there are hookup sites for all types of people. There are LGBTQ hookup sites, sugar sites, regular degular adult dating sites, and sites for people who are strictly there for sex. It’s worth putting in some time and research before committing to a single site.

Tip #1: Use hot photos

“Hot” is of course subjective, but there’s a certain type of hotness we’re referring to when you’re creating your hookup site profile. You want to show off what your mama gave you without being too overtly sexual (unless you’re on a website where the majority of the users are posting very sexual photos). A great way to do this is by using a bathing suit photo. It’s not quite as jarring as a nudie or lingerie picture, but it gets the point across that you are sexy and confident. Another great tip is to show your face in the picture. People are more likely to meet up for intimacy if they can see your face in your profile picture. That means no sunglasses!

Tip #2: Don’t be too forward

Wine and dine your matches a bit before going for gold! What we mean by that is flirt with them a little, introduce yourself, and get to know them before sending a “dtf?” message. The reason we suggest a bit of chatty foreplay is that most users on hookup sites are getting a ton of raunchy to-the-point messages. By asking more personal questions and appealing to someone on an emotional level, you are doing what you can to stand out among the crowd.

Tip #3: Timing is everything

Once you’ve introduced yourself and you feel confident that your match is into you, go ahead and ask for a meet-up. As always, we suggest meeting in a public safe setting before going into a private home. Don’t miss your opportunity if the window presents itself. Always ask about when they are free to hang out within your first conversation. Even if they can’t meet that night, it will show other users that you mean business.

And those are our top 3 tips when you are using a hookup website! By putting these three golden tips to use, you should be able to bag your next hookup in no time. And here’s our final tip: When do you get to finally meet in person, take a deep breath, and don’t try to be anything you’re not. If you make a great in-person first impression, there’s a good chance you can hookup with this person again in the future!