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Adult FriendFinder isn’t one of the most popular dating and hookup sites on the internet by accident. Since 1996, they’ve built a community where it’s safe to be who you are, whether you’re looking for casual hookups, online sex, friends with benefits, or something a bit kinkier.

Let’s break Adult FriendFinder down by the numbers:

  • Over 82 million members
  • Over 5,000,000 members
  • Nearly 100,000,000 photos uploaded

Those kinds of numbers are why Adult FriendFinder is one of the ‘net’s top dating sites. For the past 20+ years, AFF has built a community where friendship and sexiness are just as important as sharing what’s on your mind and showing others what turns you on.

Logging in for the first time can be completely overwhelming, though. Enough that you might wonder what kind of chaotic hell you’ve logged into. (Just us?) Once you learn your way around and focus on what you enjoy most, you can connect in countless ways with countless people, in your area and around the world. But you’ll pay for the privilege.

Joining Adult FriendFinder

You can always join Adult FriendFinder for free. Take advantage of any special offers they provide to try out membership for free because that’s where most of the action is. Joining takes a few steps, but they’re meant to help you find exactly what and who you’re looking for.

  • Share who you are: Man, woman, couple (male/female), group, couple (male/male), couple (female/female), or TS/TV/TG (transsexual, transvestite, transgender).
  • Share what you’re looking for: Men, women, couples, TS/TV/TG
  • Enter your date of birth, country, and zip code
  • Enter your email, a username, and a password

Once you’ve done that, you’re in. To get the most out of Adult FriendFinder, make sure you complete your profile, add a photo, and enter as much personal information as you’re comfortable sharing. If you don’t do this, the connections you’ll make will be severely limited.

You don’t have to become a paid member to keep using Adult FriendFinder, but you’ll find that a lot of things you may love about AFF go away once your free trial ends. You’ve got three membership levels to choose from, depending on what you want to do and can afford.

Standard (Free) Membership

  • Join blogs and groups
  • Chat on IM and in chat rooms
  • Upload photos and videos
  • Perform basic searches for other users
  • Like photos and videos
  • Receive technical support in two days by email
  • Add up to 200 members to your Hotlist
  • Watch one cam video at a time

Gold Membership

Gold membership offers everything from the free membership plus a lot more features and flexibility.

  • Get technical support within 12 hours
  • Priority customer service by phone
  • Add up to 1000 members to your Hotlist
  • Watch unlimited live member cam videos
  • Send flirts
  • Send friend requests
  • View favorite photos and videos
  • Comment on photos and videos
  • Watch full-length videos
  • View full-size photos
  • Initiate, read, and reply-to messages
  • View complete profiles of other members
  • Use advanced search to narrow down potential matches

Another option for Gold Members is to purchase Standard Contacts (on top of your Gold membership). This allows free members to view your profile and message you. If it sounds like you’re paying so a free member can have better access, you are. But if finding the perfect match is important to you, Standard Contacts allows you to get to know more people.

VIP Membership

You can also upgrade your membership to VIP at any point. As a VIP, you still have everything you enjoy as a Gold Membership, plus a few more perks:

  • VIP icon on your listings
  • Show up in a special VIP search
  • Listed in Cupid’s Report
  • Get notified when someone reads your message, plus you get 500 points to use on virtual gifts.

Cost of Membership

Of course, you might be asking yourself what all this costs, right? Good question. Standard membership is easy — it’s free. What about the rest?

  • Gold Membership is $23.95 per month, if you subscribe a month at a time. It’s $17.95 per month for a 6 month package but you pay $107.70 up front,
  • VIP Membership costs $29.95 per month.
  • Standard Contacts cost $19.95 per month, if you subscribe a month at a time. For a full year, it’s $8.95 per month. You pay $107.40 when you sign up.

Using Adult FriendFinder

There is so much to see and do when you first login. The layout is reminiscent of an older social media feed and is a bit cluttered. Wherever you look, there’s more information to take in. How much you can interact with what you see depends on your membership level.

For the most part, you can begin interacting with people right away. Check out profiles. Like, comment, and interact. Message people who look interesting. Upload your photos. You can even turn on your webcam and start your own sexy cam show for other members to watch. Getting your bearings on Adult FriendFinder can be difficult. There’s just too much to see and do. Let’s break it down a little.

Visit Chat Rooms

Want a chance to meet people who might not be in your feed? Love talking with certain types of people or about specific topics? Use the chat rooms to get to know several people at once about topics you’re all interested in.

Watch or Get on Live Cam

Pick your preference – watching or performing – and you can do it on Adult FriendFinder. The Live Member Cams are great for really getting to know people, in an up close, personal, and very naked kind of way. Members with webcams are welcome to turn yours on and start sharing.

If you’d rather watch than perform, you can choose between the Live Member Cams and the Live Models. You usually get a higher quality production with a professional cam model. There is no better or worse between the two, only what you enjoy most.

Get Yourself Some Bling

Want to highlight your personality a little more on your profile? Add bling that says something about you – nice or naughty. You can choose what’s already available or create and upload your own

Earn Points

By being active (in specific ways) in the Adult FriendFinder community, you can earn points. As points accumulate, you can do different things:

  • Send virtual gifts to people you like
  • Get read message alerts
  • Upgrade membership for a month
  • Standard contacts for a month
  • Private chat rooms for a month
  • Purchase bling

Blog and Share

Part of what makes Adult FriendFinder so interesting is that you can read what other people think, check out erotic stories, and even write your own. Blogs are available for the community to read and interact with. It’s another way to connect with people while also sharing what you think, know, like, or don’t like about sex and relationships (among other topics).

Join a Group

Adult FriendFinder is all about connecting people. Whether it’s a personal kink or a favorite thing you love to do, there’s probably a group for it. If making friends is hard for you or you only want to connect with people who have things in common with you, join a group.

Navigating Adult FriendFinder

Your homepage is where all of your social activity and interaction takes place. On the left side of your screen (on a browser), you can see who’s interacted with you and who you’ve interacted with in the last 90 days. The bulk of the page shows all the people you can connect with in a variety of different ways. At the top of the screen (on a browser) are your navigation tabs.

My Stuff

As the name implies, this is where all of your stuff – information and interactions – can be accessed most easily.

  • Profile
  • Photos
  • Preferences
  • Friends
  • Favorites
  • Hotlist
  • Gifts and Tips
  • And more


Unless you’re a Gold member, you won’t have access to all of the search capabilities.

  • Who’s Online
  • New Matches
  • Members Near Me
  • VIP members
  • Hot or Not
  • Advanced Search
  • Kink Search
  • Browse
  • Username Search

Live Action

This is where you can easily find cam models and members sharing all kinds of sexiness.

  • Live Models
  • Live Member Webcams
  • Top Broadcasters
  • Adult Chat Rooms
  • Instant Message


Adult FriendFinder could be all about the hookup and the easy sex (and it is!), but it also understands that people want to share more than that. The Community section is filled with good, interesting, and educational information.

  • Blogs
  • Groups
  • Magazine
  • Bling
  • Sex Academy (online courses)
  • Contests
  • Erotic Stories

What’s Hot

If you just like to know what’s popular, sexy, and most loved, What’s Hot is the place to go.

  • Hottest Photos
  • Hottest Videos
  • Hottest Albums (photos)
  • Top Members
  • Adult Movies – full length porn; pay to watch

You can also use this navigation bar to set preferences like the content filter: everything, some nudity, or no nudity.

Payments and Refunds

Adult FriendFinder offers multiple payment options: credit card, electronic check (ACH), credit card by mail or fax, and check or money order. Payments on statements show up as*FRIENDF.

Your subscription will automatically renew at the non-discounted price, if you chose a multiple month package, when it runs out. You can turn off auto-renewal to avoid this. If you close your account early (before your membership package ends), you won’t receive a prorated refund for the time remaining. Refunds can be requested for billing errors or problems.

Orders made through the mobile app, using the mobile billing payment service might be higher due to third party network fees. Orders through the mobile billing option may not be refundable.

Tech Issues

Adult FriendFinder has an extremely comprehensive FAQ section. Nearly every question you can think of is probably there. The search function on their Help page is a bit limited and doesn’t always work for seem like obvious searches. If you still need help, use their customer support options: call, use live chat, or submit a question. Your level of membership will determine how quickly you receive an answer back or wait on hold.


Adult FriendFinder has an almost anything goes mindset but certain things are never okay. Within their conduct rules are some no-brainers, but sometimes it bears repeating:

  • No content is allowed if it’s considered unlawful, harmful, threatening, abusive, defamatory, harassing, obscene, hateful, or objectionable.
  • You cannot post content that shows abuse or harm to minors.
  • No stalking (that should be a duh, right?)
  • Don’t disclose personal details like your personal telephone number, physical address, last name, or email address anywhere in your profile.
  • Do not share content you do not have the legal right to share.


Adult FriendFinder is one of the largest and most popular dating and hookup sites on the internet. They know what appeals to singles and couples looking for sexy fun. As a result, they’re favorites every year for big awards:

  • LALive Adult Site of the Year – Dating
  • XBIZ Adult Site of the Year
  • AVN Awards Best Dating Site